What Does Having a Boyfriend Have to Do With Sleep?


Owen Dennis Riley, 17, has by no means had a girlfriend. But he performs a boyfriend to not less than half a million subscribers on YouTube.

He brings you presents on Valentine’s Day and soup once you’re sick. He serenades you, in case you’re into that kind of factor. Most essential, he needs to show you how to get a good night time’s sleep. Instead of counting sheep or limiting your display screen time earlier than mattress, he’ll discuss you down for the night time and tuck you in.

“Babe, baaaabe, what I need you to do is simply take a deep breath in and a deep breath out,” he says in a whisper at first of a video titled “Loving Boyfriend Does Your Makeup.” “Everything is going to be O.K. It’s all right that we’re going to be a little bit late to the restaurant. I called them. They said it was O.K. if we’re a little bit late as long as we get there within the hour. So just calm down, I’m going to be here, I’m going to give you some support. I don’t want you to stress, all right? I tried to get here as quickly as I could because I know you start to get really stressed in these types of situations. But don’t worry because I’m here now, so you don’t need to worry anymore.”

He proceeds to tickle the digital camera lens and microphone with make-up brushes, promising that you just actually look higher with out make-up, anyway.

“I thought I could do it in my own way,” Owen said. “I come from a Christian background. I don’t want to do anything that will affect my integrity, which is wholesome.”

“I had a moment where I realized that I think I can make it cool,” he continued. “I thought I could do it in my own way, something more realistic and natural — for teenagers. I wanted to create something that my viewers won’t be afraid to be caught watching.” (Most of them are women between the ages of 18 and 24, according to demographic data Owen provided from his YouTube dashboard.)

Owen lives outside of Atlanta with his parents. Often, when he is recording, they’re in the other room, aware of the content he is making and sometimes involved in the creative process.

“My family is so supportive,” he said. “They thought it was cool I could get that many subscribers from whispering into a microphone.” And those subscribers mean views, which means money. But just how much?

“For every 1,000 views, I make $3,” he said without a hint of braggadocio. The views on his role-play videos range from 155,000 to two million. “You can do the math.”

The comments on a DennisASMR video often encompass a range of emotions, from enamored to creeped out. (Viewers also pose questions about his personal life.) These extremes revolve around the intensity of Owen’s eye contact and the weight of his validating statements. How did this teenager develop such deep emotional intelligence?

Dr. Richard agreed that this particular video doesn’t fit the A.S.M.R. standard. It features a ruder character, whom Owen admits he channeled to make the videos feel more realistic, so his oeuvre wouldn’t consist solely of “perfect moments.”

To Dr. Fleck, however, “Jealous Boyfriend” not only defies the social norms of A.S.M.R., it’s also problematic. The comments on the video echo her sentiment.

‘Wow… he actually made me upset and feeling guilty at the same time. And I should not even be feeling these things. I haven’t done anything,” one user wrote.

“My first line of defense against insomnia,” she said, “would not be to get a boyfriend.”



Source link Nytimes.com

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